Getting married takes a TOLL on one’s sanity. Everyone warns you it will be hard on you and your relationship and I thought they were all nuts. Yah, but WE are different.
Planning a wedding was a rollercoaster of emotions. One second I was looking at my fiance’ thinking how did I land the most romantic, perfect, thoughtful man in the world? Then literally the next second I was thinking of places to bury the body because I wanted to kill him.
I remember the wednesday… WEDNESDAY… before our Saturday wedding, my then fiance’ called me to tell me that he was canceling all rentals for our cocktail hour to “save money”. As much as I admired his jew-ness, hello, it was a few days before the wedding and we had this proposal for months. AND PEOPLE NEEDED PLACES TO SIT AND TABLES TO REST THEIR DRINKS ON, GOD DAMNIT! Still not over that unneeded stress days before our nuptials.
Oh, and we kept the rentals. Duh.
Getting married was a pain in my ass, but having my girlfriends around who had gotten married before and were there to give me tips was so freaking helpful. I remember stressing over small, tedious things that my friends told me to forget about and looking back I am so thankful I had them around to help guide me.
SOOOO… (this is going somewhere, promise) I’m going to start a series called Bridal Bitching to pass along some of my wedding wisdom and I will try and keep it as non-basic as possible. I decided on the name Bridal Bitching because most of what I did during wedding planning was… complaining. AKA Bitching. #clever
The first installment of this series, I’m going to be talking about Ceremony Welcome Drinks.
We went to a wedding in Houston during the floods that happened in 2015 and the ride over was a little stressful because water was rising fast. Upon arrival to the venue, we were all greeted with drinks. GENIUS. This was the first wedding I had ever been to with welcome drinks at the CEREMONY. I was inspired.
Our caterer wouldn’t serve drinks at our ceremony site because their insurance only covers serving alcohol if you also serve food as well. Perfect for the rest of the night but I did not want to serve apps before the ceremony because it was more money and just didn’t make sense to me.
So I got creative.
I went to our local liquor store and priced out champagne splits. It actually ended up only being $3 a bottle so I ordered them and drove them up to Santa Barbara for our wedding. I also got really cheap gold straws on Amazon, wooden fans (because it was outside, with no shade) and had a lot of leftover napkins from a bridal shower to place with the champagne splits. It was perfect because I didn’t need anyone to serve them, I just had them chilled up until the time of the ceremony and had my coordinator set them out. He took some creative liberties on the decorations of the table but honestly I didn’t give a shit. That is a low key tip I will give you, your vision is all you think about for a year and the day of, just let go and let people do shit for you.
A lot of people judged me for my idea when I told them leading up to the wedding, they thought it was ‘tacky’ and an un-needed expense but I was dead set on it. I wanted our wedding to be super welcoming and FUN and drinks during the ceremony would set the tone of the night for me. What is better after getting off a bus ride through Santa Barbara to champagne overlooking the ocean? NOTHING. At the end of the day, I was right and the judgers were wrong.
People have tons of opinions when it comes to your wedding and when it comes down to it, it’s your day and it’s a wedding, essentially just the biggest party you (hopefully) ever through. Why are people so serious about weddings? They’re supposed to be FUN. We played Classic Rock during our ceremony, had our guests already drinking, and our officiant quoted Christmas Vacation. It was perfectly us and what we wanted our day to feel like. Respect people’s opinions about your wedding but do YOU.
So to sum it all up, serve the welcome drinks. Find a way to make it work if you are given roadblocks, get creative. Trust your vision and do what makes you and your partner happy.
Lastly, make it FUN.
Hope this helps some poor bridezilla in the midst of a bridal breakdown.. I feel you girl!